Hi my Community of Friends, Families, and Colleagues, Today I got a shocking and deeply saddening call. Truth is, every couple of years I’d get a call from a total random stranger inquiring about the wellbeing of my dear mentor and teacher, Marilyn Nehls, who taught me all about the Red and Green Learning System. […]
It’s hard to believe that Marilyn Nehls is no longer with us… Read More »
Happy Monday! Perhaps you’ve seen my favorite way to teach problem-solving skills. It has four simple steps: 4 Steps to Teach Problem Solving: Say the Problem List 4+ Solutions Choose the best one(s) Do it! There’s one little trick in Step #2 that sounds ridiculous and counterintuitive, but it really makes a difference. What is
I know it sounds CRAZY, but it works! Read More »
My name is Miriam Schiff, CCC/SLP, MA, MS Ed, and I’m a longtime graduate of Dr. Devora Samet’s Red and Green Social Skills Training Course. I’d like to share a fun way I recently worked on problem-solving skills with a third grade student. We randomly went through magazine pictures and we tried to scout out
A fun and creative way to teach problem-solving skills! Miriam Schiff shows us how… Read More »
Yes, we all know about DISTRESS, but are you familiar with EUSTRESS??? Eustress is defined as moderate or normal stress that comes from happy events, not sad ones. Here are some examples of eustress and distress. However… Each person might experience the same event differently. An event that can be EUSTRESS to one, might be
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Yes, Pesach is coming… In fact, it’s less than two weeks away. Ouch, did that bring up lots of feelings??? We’ve established that feelings need to be discharged in order to avoid emotional explosions, but how do we actually do it? There are lots of different ways to do it. Here is one super simple
My feelings don’t make any sense… or maybe they do??? Read More »
How often has a kid told you, “Why talk about my feelings if nothing is gonna change?” How often have we said the same thing at some point in our lives? It sometimes feel useless just to talk about emotions when what we really want is action. But there’s truth to the idea that if
When your emotions are exploding… then what??? Read More »
Emotion regulation or knowing how to deal with one’s emotions in a calm or socially skillful manner, is a hot topic these days. So many kids (and even adults) struggle with it. So what do you do if a child is jealous? Reprimand then and tell them that it is a bad character trait that
The last thing you should ever do when a child is jealous! Read More »
In the last blog post, I cited several possibilities that might contribute to kids having trouble making or keeping friends. I’d like to address another angle this week: when kids don’t feel lovable and thereby worthy of friendship. There are simple yet important things parents, therapists, and educators can do. For Parents: Tell your kids,
How can we help kids who don’t feel lovable? Read More »
Can’t believe that 2020 is finally over! What a year! May the need for physical distancing end very soon, and may social closeness and social connection be the rule for 2021!! To that end, and to start with the best of energies this 2021, I want to give every parent and educator a chance to
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In the secular world, there is constant talk in the media about an inundation of anxiety being experienced by children, teens, and adults alike. Interestingly, I have been working in local yeshivas and schools in our neighborhood, and aside from a sprinkling here and there, I don’t get the feeling that there is much angst
