(2 Minute Read) We are addressing once again a student (10 years or older) who doesn’t respect authority, including principals, teachers, and parents. What is another important strategy to break the disrespectful cycle?
Strategy #2:
Speak assertively, not passively nor aggressively.
What does that mean practically? It’s about three factors:
1. Choice of words
2. Tone of voice
3. Body language
Choice of words:
1 “I don’t think you should be here,” (passive) vs. “You cannot be here.” (assertive)
2. “You really shouldn’t buy these donuts,” (passive) vs. “You have no permission to buy these donuts.” (assertive)
Tone of Voice:
1 “Let me know when you finish the page. OK?” (sing song passive tone) vs. “Let me know when you finish the page.” (assertive tone)
2. “I want you to do your homework. Alright?” (sing song passive tone) vs. “I need you to do your homework.” (assertive tone)
Body language:
1. Tilting one’s head when making a request (passive), vs. head straight (assertive)
2. Slightly slouching forward (passive) vs. tall back/straight posture (assertive)
Have you ever wanted to learn some of the strategies that are mentioned in the blog but didn’t know where to get the training?
Coming soon on our website!
Mini-Workshops to teach a variety of skills to educators, parents, and professionals, such as the following and more:
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- Passive, Assertive, Aggressive Tones of Voice
- Mini-Emotion Books
- SpecialMommy/Daddy Time
- Sibling Rivalry
- Anti-Bullying
- Red Green Social
- Behavior Stories
- Mini-Behavior Books
- Etc.
Look out for them in the next few weeks!!
Have a pleasant week!
Yours,
Dr. Devora