How often has a kid told you, “Why talk about my feelings if nothing is gonna change?” How often have we said the same thing at some point in our lives? It sometimes feel useless just to talk about emotions when what we really want is action. But there’s truth to the idea that if […]
When your emotions are exploding… then what??? Read More »
Emotion regulation or knowing how to deal with one’s emotions in a calm or socially skillful manner, is a hot topic these days. So many kids (and even adults) struggle with it. So what do you do if a child is jealous? Reprimand then and tell them that it is a bad character trait that
The last thing you should ever do when a child is jealous! Read More »
I used to think that if a kid didn’t listen to me right away, the only reason was that they were simply being stubborn and I was going to teach them a thing or two… fast! But that was in the past. Today, I recognize that kids might have intense anxiety that stops them. Or
Stop being so stubborn and just call that kid!!!! Read More »
In the last blog post, I cited several possibilities that might contribute to kids having trouble making or keeping friends. I’d like to address another angle this week: when kids don’t feel lovable and thereby worthy of friendship. There are simple yet important things parents, therapists, and educators can do. For Parents: Tell your kids,
How can we help kids who don’t feel lovable? Read More »
There are a number of angles that need to be looked at when kids don’t have friends. Here are just a few of the possibilities: Some kids don’t feel lovable and therefore assume that no one would want to be their friend. Some kids try to make friends but go about it the wrong way.
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Can’t believe that 2020 is finally over! What a year! May the need for physical distancing end very soon, and may social closeness and social connection be the rule for 2021!! To that end, and to start with the best of energies this 2021, I want to give every parent and educator a chance to
2021: A Year of Social Connection and Social Closeness Read More »
In the secular world, there is constant talk in the media about an inundation of anxiety being experienced by children, teens, and adults alike. Interestingly, I have been working in local yeshivas and schools in our neighborhood, and aside from a sprinkling here and there, I don’t get the feeling that there is much angst
Yes, COVID has been quite stressful for most of our children and perhaps even traumatic for some of them. But that doesn’t mean that they need therapy. How do you know whether therapy is unnecessary at this time? Here’s a quick way to remember: Mild iFIND! i – intensity F – frequency I – interference
My Child Will Grow Out Of It… Five Signs They Likely Will Read More »
I met with Leah for half an hour in early March, after having spoken to her mother at length. I wanted to get to know her a little, and to get a feel for the issues I’d be dealing with. At the beginning, when I asked her if she has friends, she told me she
“Leah” – A Case Study Part Two: by Chavi Hornig, M.S.Untitled Read More »
Bedtime Strategies: Create Rules – Each child should have a reasonable bedtime that is consistently adhered to… Sample bedtimes: 3-4 year olds: 6:30-7:00 5-6 year olds: 7:15-7:30 7-8 year olds: 7:45-8:15 9-12 year olds: 9:30 lights out Teenagers: 10:00-11:00 and create a contract that requires teenager to be responsible and get him or herself out of
