Emotion regulation or knowing how to deal with one’s emotions in a calm or socially skillful manner, is a hot topic these days. So many kids (and even adults) struggle with it. So what do you do if a child is jealous? Reprimand then and tell them that it is a bad character trait that […]
The last thing you should ever do when a child is jealous! Read More »
In the last blog post, I cited several possibilities that might contribute to kids having trouble making or keeping friends. I’d like to address another angle this week: when kids don’t feel lovable and thereby worthy of friendship. There are simple yet important things parents, therapists, and educators can do. For Parents: Tell your kids,
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Can’t believe that 2020 is finally over! What a year! May the need for physical distancing end very soon, and may social closeness and social connection be the rule for 2021!! To that end, and to start with the best of energies this 2021, I want to give every parent and educator a chance to
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In the secular world, there is constant talk in the media about an inundation of anxiety being experienced by children, teens, and adults alike. Interestingly, I have been working in local yeshivas and schools in our neighborhood, and aside from a sprinkling here and there, I don’t get the feeling that there is much angst
Yes, COVID has been quite stressful for most of our children and perhaps even traumatic for some of them. But that doesn’t mean that they need therapy. How do you know whether therapy is unnecessary at this time? Here’s a quick way to remember: Mild iFIND! i – intensity F – frequency I – interference
My Child Will Grow Out Of It… Five Signs They Likely Will Read More »
I met with Leah for half an hour in early March, after having spoken to her mother at length. I wanted to get to know her a little, and to get a feel for the issues I’d be dealing with. At the beginning, when I asked her if she has friends, she told me she
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Bedtime Strategies: Create Rules – Each child should have a reasonable bedtime that is consistently adhered to… Sample bedtimes: 3-4 year olds: 6:30-7:00 5-6 year olds: 7:15-7:30 7-8 year olds: 7:45-8:15 9-12 year olds: 9:30 lights out Teenagers: 10:00-11:00 and create a contract that requires teenager to be responsible and get him or herself out of
When your child says, “It’s not fair; you gave him more orange juice than me,” have you tried to even the score? Did you give him some more juice just to hear your other child say “Well now he has more than me!!”? Oftentimes, children will make comparisons with their siblings and complain about unfairness:
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Why do some children fight more than others? Why is it that some kids seem to work out their little squabbles, yet others don’t resolve their conflicts until after a physical fiasco and/or a crying meltdown? I wondered the same and decided to find out. Initially, I observed a class of four year-old kindergarten girls.
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When parents and educators discover that behaviors can be broken down into a list of reds and greens, one of the most-often asked questions is: “So which behaviors do I address first?” Address those behaviors that are happening very frequently and are causing the most difficulties for the people around them. Usually, my response is
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