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Question:
Hi. My child gets quite rigid about timing. For example, getting somewhere a little late is a huge deal for him.
Any suggestions?
Answer: Here is a social story you may use (or modify as needed.)
Do I Have To Get To Places First?
Sometimes, my parents make plans to go places. Sometimes we go to my grandparents. Sometimes we go to my cousins. Sometimes we go to an engagement party. Sometimes we go to a barbecue.
Usually, the person who is inviting us tells us what time to be there. My grandmother might tell us to be at the party at 7:30 p.m. Do we really have to be there at 7:30 p.m. sharp? No! My grandmother is saying 7:30 but she really means 8:00 or 8:30. That’s how it is in my family.
If my cousin invites us to a birthday party that is called for 3:00 in the afternoon, do I have to be there at 3:00 sharp? Do I have to rush my mother to be there on time? NO! 3:00 might mean 3:30 or 4:00. That’s when all the cousins will arrive because that’s how it is in my family. I might even look strange if I arrive at 3:00 sharp.
I will try to remember that when I’m invited to a party, that it’s better to arrive ½ an hour or 1 hour later, especially in my community. Rushing is not a good idea.
If I get to my grandmother at 7:30, nobody might be there. I might be the first one there. My grandmother won’t be happy if I’m there so early – at 7:30. It’s Ok if I get there at 8:00. Typical people in my family and community get to parties at least half-an-hour later because that’s how it is in my family and community.
Have a relaxing week!
Yours,
Dr. Devora